Advice I Will Tell My Children
You can’t fix people, they can only fix themselves, and if you try to, you will be the one who ends up broken.
Make sure you listen to others.
Listen to your intuition, particularly the feeling you get around people and places.
Sometimes people will push you away and it won’t be your fault.
Every action does not need a reaction, sometimes doing nothing is better than doing something.
Don’t pressure yourself into doing things and don’t do things in spite of yourself to make others happy.
In relationships, when it is clear it is the end…end it – don’t drag it out, the more you do the more it will hurt.
It’s inevitable that in life you will have hardships and darker times but it is important to know that it will get better and life is worth living.
Don’t use drugs to escape the pain - for when you numb pain you also numb happiness.
Be humble and don’t get caught up in superficial things.
Remember: “this too shall pass,” has two meanings – Everything in life is temporary even if it is positive or negative so don’t take moments for granted but also know that things will get better if they are bad.
Pain is relative.
Don’t get confused between actually loving someone and loving the idea of them.
Don’t confuse yourself with actually wanting something and only wanting it when it is not there or you have nothing else.
Success is fleeting.
Expect the unexpected.
Remember that everyone is fighting different/their own battles.
Realize the people who bring more negative aspects to your life than positive ones and let them go.
Love is not always the cure.
Loving the wrong people is not worth it just to feel love.
Be kind to everyone for you never know when you will need them in the future.
Always be inclusive of others.
Be careful who you tell things to – not everyone deserves to know about you.
“Your past may be dirty but your future is spotless.”
Respect your body, in whatever way that means to you.
Always be in the pursuit to love yourself.
Trust your instinct – if you have the feeling you're about to be in a bad situation – get out of it.
Don’t punish yourself for making the same mistakes multiple times.
Only you can give yourself closure.
Happiness is not about the destination but the journey.
Don’t get upset if things do not work out, you always learn something from it, and if it was meant to be it would have been.
Don’t take people’s criticisms personally, it is a reflection of them.
No one actually knows what they are doing.
Hire slowly, fire quickly.
Change your mindset
Your thoughts become your words, words become your actions, actions become habits, habits become your character, your character becomes your destiny.
Faster alone, but farther together.
If you don’t heal what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you.
Share emotions and feelings in a relationship. Often have check in’s with people. Ask them how they feel in the relationship right now? If they want to share
You shouldn’t have to show someone how to love you or treat you, it should come from their heart.
Relationships need to be worked on.
It is easier to forgive than to forget.
Be patient with people, communicate your feelings, and try to see where the other person is coming from. Do not assume, it will get you in a lot of trouble, each person sees the world completely differently, what you do or say may be taken in the opposite way you intended it.
Communication is important, but without understanding, communication means nothing.
No matter how much someone loves you, you cannot change them, they can only change themselves.
People change, and sometimes you grow apart and it is okay.
Pay attention to the people who have always been there for you. Treat them right.
Stop relying on someone else to make you feel better about yourself.
Stop having expectations, you will end up disappointed.
Know your boundaries and set them.
Do not judge people, but know if something is not right for you. Sometimes you already know when something unpleasant is happening and then it happens. Still, that doesn’t make it hurt any less.
Things don’t always work out the way we imagine them to. We kinda know that already but it still fucks us up all the same.
Having expectations is dangerous, but having hope keeps you going.
Sometimes we get too caught up with looking forward to things that we forget about trying to enjoy the process.
The only thing in life that is constant is change.
Small Things with Big Impacts
The people you hangout with.
The content you consume on the internet.
The first few things you do in the morning.
Saying out something that is on your mind.
Letting people know you appreciate them.